I have never labeled myself as a "people-pleaser" but the tendency is there nonetheless. It is no secret that girls are conditioned to be nice and make others happy. And if you have ever been victimized, you may have found yourself with a ferocious urge to be everything to everybody. It is all an attempt to stay safe.
But of course, we cannot make everyone happy. There will always be someone who doesn't like what we are doing. There will always be people who withhold their approval.
So why not drop the people-pleasing and instead let our authentic joy shine through? Why not remind ourselves every day that we are enough as we are? When we are kind to ourselves. we spread far more happiness than trying to fit ourselves into anyone else's mold.