Is sexual assault a gender issue, or a societal issue?

In decades past, primarily women were concerned with changing rape culture. These days, I am so inspired to see more and more people of all genders working to create…

In 2019, I am committing myself to being my own hero. I am freeing myself from feeling trapped by circumstances and other people's actions in the past and present. I'm working to let go of the last vestiges of my…

After I was sexually assaulted, I fell into the common coping mechanism of blaming myself and believing I was bad. Learning to be kind and compassionate with myself has unlocked so much healing and growth. I wish for everyone to…

I am a perfectionist in recovery.  

When I was 24, I told my life-long friend Chelsea that I was completely over my perfectionism. She raised her eyebrows at me. “You are not fooling anyone, honey,“ she said knowingly…

I was once a bully. I am not proud of it. Usually I write about overcoming my experiences as a rape victim. But I must come clean about my brief episode as a perpetrator of violence, because I remember all…

Let’s just say this bad-ass weightlifting lady was never me. I have always thought of myself as weak and un-athletic. Oh, I tried exercise as a kid. I played soccer, and my team lost all our games. I…

I remember a painful day when a fellow bandmate suggested a change to the chords in a song I had written. I burst into tears, ashamed that I was upset but unable to stay calm. Although his comments were expressed…

It's a big leap into a new life, a risky flight into the blue sky

but fear won't stop my change to fly, I won't let life pass me by

This week I created a music video about…

Are we doomed to carry the burden of our pain and shame after trauma? Are we damaged beyond repair? I believe we have the capacity to heal, and here is why. 

Last week I had the pleasure and challenge…

 It took me years to reach out for help after my sexual assault experiences.  When I told my friends and family members what I had gone through, they all had loving intentions.  They all wanted to help.  But not everyone…

When I began therapy for my childhood trauma, I felt myself descending into the dark forest of memory. Frightening recollections lurked behind the trees, ready to overtake me. 

I wanted to get through it all as quickly as possible…

I still have my voice.  We still have our voices.  We still have our courage. 

Not everyone is listening, not everyone is ready to face their own discomfort that comes along with BELIEVING SURVIVORS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT.  Many in…